Resources
Do you LOVE to learn? You’re in the right place!
While therapy, counseling or coaching is an essential part of deep recovery, we also deeply value personal learning resources that supplement our healing like books, podcasts and a network of professionals who specialize in other areas.
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RESOURCES
FOR THE BETRAYED PARTNER
PODCASTS
Books
Intimate Deception, Sheri Keffer
This book guides you through the initial stages of recovery from discovery, through understanding how this may be impacting your mind, emotions and physical health, to sharing the process of recovery work
Misty shares her personal journey of discovery and recovery while also walking you through the step by step process of recovery. Her husband answers questions at the end of each chapter, sharing a glimpse into the mindset of an addict in healthy recovery.
Building True Intimacy, the Raabsmiths
This book walks through the intimacy pyramid beginning with the foundation of Honesty, moving towards safety, trust, vulnerability and eventually intimacy between a couple.
Facing Heartbreak weaves real life stories with practical therapeutic advice and specific tasks that gently educate, empower, and guide the partner of the sex addict through a process of recovery. Using Dr. Patrick Carnes' thirty-task sex recovery model, readers will learn to heal from the heartbreak and betrayal as they discover hope and healing.
Unapologetically You is your personal companion on a transformative journey towards inner peace, emotional healing, and self-awareness. This journal offers a collection of guided prompts, exercises, and reflective spaces to help you reconnect with your true self, heal old wounds, and embrace the fullness of who you are.
PRACTITIONERS
Social Media & Threads Accounts:
RESOURCES
FOR THE RECOVERING PARTNER
1)
LOCATE A CERTIFIED SEX ADDICTION THERAPIST IN YOUR AREA
A CSAT is great for establishing sobriety and helping the individual prepare for a full therapeutic disclosure when working towards relational reconciliation.
Some CSATS also specialize in trauma support and are able to help the individual connect to the root cause, emotions and triggers that have contributed to the addictive patterns and process them in a healthy way.
Other CSATS don’t have this specialty. We recommend starting with a CSAT to establish sobriety, and get through disclosure and then you can re-asses if they have the tools to help you deepen your recovery journey.
2)
If that is not possible or accessible in your area, you can find a virtual therapist or coach using the following links:
Daring Adventures (Recovery sessions available in person or online)
Jay Stringer (Coaching Intensives)
Begin Again Institute (2 Week recovery Intensive) It’s important to remember that recovery is a 2-5 year process. While intensives can kickstart the journey, make sure you have plan set up for when you come to continue your recovery journey with a practitioner that can support your specific needs.
3)
Take the SAST test — the Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST).
4)
Connect to a local recovery group, like a “Conquer” Group. You can find support groups through Samson Society, Soul Refiner, or Pure Desire Ministries.
5)
Read books and listen to recovery podcasts:
RecoverU podcast (Patrick and Kylene)
Pure Desire podcast
PODCASTS
FOR THE RECOVERING PARTNER
Books
Unwanted, Jay Stringer
Unwanted is an excellent book that helps connect the dots between behaviors/actions and the why beneath them. Understanding our emotions and motivations that contribute to compulsive behaviors is crucial for deep recovery. It’s in this work that we see individuals move successfully from sobriety into the freedom of recovery!
Pure Desire, Ted Roberts
Ted Roberts is the founder of Pure Desire Ministries - A ministry that brings faith and therapy together to nurture deeper healing, recognizing that true restoration happens when both the spiritual and emotional are cared for.
Help Her Heal, Carol Juerguensen Sheets
Help Her Heal is a book designed to help the addict understand the trauma of the betrayed partner. It is a workbook with questions created to help the individual take personal responsibility for their choices and understand how they have impacted others. It teaches skills and tools to relate with empathy towards your partner and improves communication.
Facing the Shadows, Patrick Carnes
This is a workbook designed to help you in the initial stages of sobriety - written by Patrick Carnes who founded much of the current research utilized to support addicts in recovery
RESOURCES
Social Media & Threads Accounts:
@thechrishinton
@twfopodcast
@brandontalksmarriage
@nickmatiash - the evolved man
@cassfostermorrow
